Showing posts with label achieving. Show all posts
Showing posts with label achieving. Show all posts

Friday, December 20, 2013

Reading...

If you’re a writer, chances are good that you’re also a reader. If you’re a writer who doesn’t read… this is like when you’re doing improv and instead of your partner saying “yes and” they say “no”. The buck stops here. Insert the screeching sound of a needle on a record player for those of you young enough to remember turntables.

I am a voracious reader. I read every single day. I read fiction and I read non-fiction. The reason I’m writing on this blog topic is to motivate. Maybe that’s the goal of all of my blog topics. They do say each author has one motivation/story that she/he tells over and over in every book. My character’s motivation is the same in my 2 novels, though they are very different characters. My “motivation” in each of my blog entries has been the same = motivation. I guess what they say is true. It’s how you arrive at it that’s different and isn’t the journey the key, not the destination?

In order to write a specific genre you must read that specific genre. Simple yes and true. If you’re a sci-fi writer, you need to read sci-fi. If you’re a mystery writer, you need to read mysteries. Every successful author will also tell you to write what moves you, not what you think may sell. That is sage advice as well. If you write for a specific market or trend that’s not really what you’re interested in: 1. It will show and your voice and passion will be flat. 2. By the time you’re ready to publish, the trend will have changed. 3. Every other wanna-be author has already tried to break in to that “hot new trend” and now the market is overly saturated with say: “the next 50 shades” and no agent or publisher or reader (if you’re self published) wants to read book #256 with the exact same premise as book #255.

Write what you know, read what you love - but the key words here are “write” and “read”. You don’t have time to read but you want to be a writer? Make time. Stop watching TV and read instead. Whatever it takes or it’ll never happen. Once it becomes a habit you won’t be able to stop. I’ve been reading before sleep for more years than I can remember and now I can’t, or don’t want to, sleep without doing it. Personally I change genres. I love reading a few different ones so I skip around. From sci-fi to fantasy to chicklit to regency and more. I also get CDs of books at the library and listen to books while I drive. Thus I am always “reading” at least 2 fiction books at a time.

I also read writing books, I love reading books on “how to write”, “what to write”, “when to write”, “why to write”. I have a list of my favorites which I may copy down and post here sometime. These books are not only motivators to write, they contain practical, useful knowledge. Chances are if you’re reading this blog now, you’re a reader as well as a writer, which is wonderful! Now go out and change the world (in a good way)!

Sunday, December 15, 2013

Are you ready to take the lottery challenge?

The most ridiculous, yet true epiphany I had shortly before I wrote the first draft of my novel in a month was, “if you don’t play the lotto you won’t win.” Simple, true and everyone knows it. I’ve always known that and still I don’t play the lotto and probably never will. That’s not why that simple statement came to me though. It was about my 1st novel, Exquisite Destiny. I started writing Exquisite Destiny about 15 years ago, yes you read that correctly. FIFTEEN YEARS AGO, more or less, give or take a year or two.

I was a different person back then, completely different. The only thing that remains the same is that I look relatively un-aged (thanks to cosmetic surgery – just kidding! Thanks to good eating and even better genes).

The first thing that happened was that I birthed the character. From the “Artist’s Way” book given to me by my still amazingly close friend Max I began writing morning pages. Morning pages is an assignment in the book where you write either 3 (I think it was 3) pages or you write for an allotted period of time, 10 minutes maybe, I can’t quite remember now – it WAS a long time ago. Regardless, my character Lizzy was born. And once I gave birth to the character she needed a venue.

Her playground was hammered out in my then office/closet. I wrote like a fiend for a month, maybe two. I had a full time job then too so I wrote whenever I could and though I don’t remember for sure I think I probably managed a few pages a day. At some point I had 50 pages and I thought they were good. I really did. My then husband (exh) wanted to read them as did a couple of friends so I started on the rewrites, without ever finishing the first draft. I re-wrote for another month or so. Ecstatic to get everyone’s opinion and not knowing the “rules” which consist partially of DON’T LET YOUR FAMILY OR FRIENDS READ YOUR WRITING, especially if you’re unpublished and have an easily crushable ego. So I did what any other eager young writer does – I printed out my pages and I handed them to my exh, who by the way doesn’t actually have a name, and 2 of my closest friends. I sat and waited with baited breath.

When the jury came back it looked something like this…. My exh hated it and thought I should shred the entire thing immediately. My “best friend” at the time, who it turns out was actually my exh’s best friend said “it’s ok.” But my other friend, oh Liisa thank you for believing in me! She LOVED IT!!! She ranted and raved and said these words, “please keep writing because I want to know what happens next, I couldn’t put it down.” Why didn’t I listen to the sage Goddess and her knowledgable advice? After all her husband is a professional writer, she would know!!!

But no, my ego was fragile and my exh’s demeaning opinion mattered to me. Still I sent out the first 3 chapters to an agent and got turned down and that was it. I gave up. Looking back, the agent’s letter was really nice and open ended but I didn’t realize that then. Sadly what happened was I put my stock and belief in the jealousy and control issues of another and I stopped working on my novel – for 15 years.

Why is this a blog topic? It will hopefully inspire others not to listen to naysayers, not to put their dreams on hold but instead to move forward with them. And don’t show your first time novel to friends and family, unless they are 100% supportive. I have a current critique partner who runs her writing by her husband and he is nothing but supportive. It can happen but often times it doesn’t and when it doesn’t, the results can be catastrophic.

If you don’t play the lotto you can’t win. If you don’t write on your novel consistently you’ll never finish it. If you don’t practice your sport of choice you’ll never be good at it. If you don’t play your instrument regularly you won’t get better. If you don’t speak the foreign language you’ve been trying to learn you’ll never learn it. Simple, very simple and we all know it but knowing it and doing it are what separates the doers from the dreamers. Are you ready to take the lottery challenge?

Sunday, February 24, 2013

Writing, Doing, Achieving (or) Goals (or) Just Do It


I’m working on my first novel, that’s true. I’m even writing a little bit almost every day, or night – which is my current goal. Goals are important, especially in writing. I feel that if I don’t set goals for myself there won’t be anything to accomplish, nothing to strive for. Having nothing to strive for seems like a very bad idea. Read on while I begin, not only to make valid points but also to make sense…

Each year in my writer’s chapter we write our writing goals for the year to come on a piece of paper. We then place the paper in an envelope, seal it and “turn it in” to be looked at when the next January’s frost hangs thick in the air. This was my first year writing those goals and so far I have not completely accomplished what I set out to do. I remember writing that I hoped to blog once a week and tweet once a week plus have the first draft of my novel completed. But I am making those goals in small strides. Always biting off much more than I can chew I have a full time job (overtime actually as I run my own business), I have another part time job, I am writing my novel, reading novels and studying, trying to blog and tweet (I have 3 active blogs and 6 active twitter accounts) and I have a regular, yet a little crazy exercise program as well as relationships to maintain. Forget about eating, sleeping or cleaning house - there is absolutely no time to fit in those mundane aspects of life.

The one constant, throughout my entire life, that I’ve always returned to over and over and over again is writing. It’s like my warm blanky. I can sit on my couch or lie in my bed and wrap myself up in my computer keyboard and screen. The warm soft glow encroaching on what might otherwise be a sad and lonely existence. When I tap out these letters I can be whomever I want, say whatever I want and reach my little cyberfingers out across the interweb, knowing not whose warm and wet eyeballs will find them.

I don’t mind that I’m an overachiever who wakes up each and every morning, rolls out of her bed with her puppy and kitty at her side, each begging for attention; stumbles into the kitchen to start the hot water for the coffee press; jumps into the shower and then goes until very very late at night when she collapses like a folding chair into the bed once again.

I don’t mind that in between the time I awake and the time I sleep there are thoughts brewing in my consciousness like bacon sizzling on a hot griddle. Sometimes they’re ripe for the picking, or crisp enough for the journey from skillet to plate to mouth and other times they are just beyond the edges of rapture, missing their goal like a poor lip synch in an old poorly dubbed kung fu flick.

At times, what matters the most is just doing it. Sure if you do it you should do it well BUT if you don’t do it all can the ideas become realities? The answer is no. No bounty was never harvested without the seeds first being planted. No best picture was ever won without the screenplay having been written.

So there you have it, my crazy advice that seems to lead directly to adrenal fatigue. Make those goals and keep them. Make those dreams become a reality. The only one stopping you is me, seriously though – it’s you – but if blaming me will get you off your ass, then by all means go right ahead.